Sunday, March 27, 2011

Weekend Mishmash: Brief Reflections on Marriage

As I've noted before on this blog, I feel incredibly blessed to have the hubby that I do. Over the nearly 12 years that we've been together, he's cooked me lots of yummy meals, randomly brought home flowers, listened to my troubles, shared my passion for cinema and travel, tirelessly supported my desire to be a writer, and, most importantly, tolerated my rather high-strung nature – especially whenever a crazy travel guide deadline looms. Even now, as I struggle to complete the manuscript and maps for my latest guide, Moon New Orleans, he's doing his best to support my perfectionistic work ethic while encouraging me to get proper sleep and venture out into the world on occasion.

Although, as with any marriage, we've experienced our momentary rough spots over the years, we're pretty well suited for each other – in spite of our differences. Even long road trips don't phase us too much. During our most recent drive between Los Angeles and New Orleans, for instance, we found ourselves at a truck stop near Benson, Arizona, shortly after witnessing a terrible, flame-enshrouded automotive accident. After using the bathroom facilities, we each gathered a few snacks for the road. Being somewhat indecisive, I was still trying to find the perfect treat to accompany my cup of hot tea when Dan was en route to the register.

“I'll be waiting in the car,” he said. “Do you need any money?”

“No, thanks. I'm good.”

After Dan left the store, a pleasant, female truck driver looked at me and chuckled. “You two must not be married,” she remarked. “Or else you'd know never to turn down his offer of money.”

I smiled. “Actually, we've been married for over ten years.”

“Oh, never mind. I guess you'll never learn.”

Now, it was my turn to laugh. “Nope. I guess I never will.”

After all, that's one of the many things that I cherish about me and Dan. We share everything – including money, a similar sense of humor, and a determined effort not to play relationship games. Maybe that's why we're still married – and the female truck driver, who found my lack of an opportunistic streak amusing, had been admittedly divorced for a good, long while.

Then again, who knows why some couples last, and some don't? Love, like many things, is not an exact science – a fact that I'm grateful to have learned firsthand.


Daniel Martone said...

Baby, it has never been a chore to live with you... we drive over life's many hills, some times as if we were on a tandem bike, other times like we were cruising in a sporty convertible... but always together. You and me til the wheels fall off!

Becky said...

Aww... You 2 are too cute! FWIW DH and I share everything too. Going on 18 years, not all of them easy, but even when it's hard, we support each other. Yes, each couple is very different, and no, I sure don't have any answers either...

jbchicoine said...

What a refreshing testimony in a day and age where so many look for opportunities to berate each other. It warms my heart to know of others who are blissfully happy and don't indulge in those 'relationship games!'

Laura Martone said...

That's right, Danny - you and me till the wheels fall off! :-)

Thanks, Becky and Bridget! I guess you both understand what it's like to have a partner - sure keeps it interesting, doesn't it?